culture and choices

can we allow our son/daughter to choose whatever he/she wants to wear.if yes then why.we are parents.we are responsible for what he/she wears.we are responsible for making our wards look pretty/handsome.for making them wearing things which could reflect us in them.which could reflect our culture in them.what is culture....culture is a well established phenomenon followed by the then society.
so what is culture according to me.culture is tehzeeb according to me.for childrens,it is to follow the ethics that could reflect that culture.like for example wearing a suit.which is made for girls.which is designed since so many ages.
but nowadays we wear western outfits.should we allow??....atleast we can groom up our daughters/sons to be how we want to see them....we can put values n sanskar in them since beginning so that they like wearing such clothes....so that they give more preference to such clothes....n y shouldnt they...they reflect our culture....when we are teaching them basic ethics.....for eg-to uphold their respect,to behave decently,why dont we give them our cultures ethics too....of wearing clothes that reflect our culture....n if we dont say then who will....they are not going to have a dream about it......n if we say that ok...we leave them upto their choice....wont our culture be pulled back.....even if one starts wearing jeans...just out of attraction many would start....n then culture would convert into craze.....fashion.....but cant fashion come in suits...it does....like sleeveless....n all kinds of different tops n lowers.....so what is culture...n where is it.....in hands of whom.....
if i belong to lucknow,is that a crime.....if i try to put culture in my son/daughter by telling her to wear salwar suits,rather than jeans...or kurta paijama in case of boys.am i doing a crime...
or would u say that culture in itself is not right....culture needs to change....if it is so....then what about the ethics...how is there a way to control....for eg...there was a time when love marriage was considered a bane...but now its common....you can see girls openly going out with guys n doing all sorts of things....hasnt the culture corrupted then?shouldnt we maintain it to prevent further advancements....or should we leave everything..should we leave it upto their choice....
the same question.....should we influence their choice...or should we just let them make their choice...
if we let them make their choices.....wont the culture go in wrong hands.....its said one wrotten fish spoils the whole tank....wont it come true...
upto u to decide now....
comfort or culture??
culture or fashion??
culture or independence??
independence or experience of our elders??
our own choices...or choices of those more experienced by us??