What is love?
• The first n foremost thing that comes to mind is, love is a feeling of being without expectations. A true love means giving without expectations. At the same time, if a doctor loves his profession, it doesn’t mean that he should not charge his patients for the operation or consultation. If he loves his profession, his first intention should not be money. If he gets money in turn of his services, then its right. He deserves it. Same goes for every situation. First intention of love should not be expectations. It should be just giving love.
• Loving does not happen by flowing into emotions. If a person loves, due to the fact that emotions control him/her, then its not actually love.
• Love never demands. it is more of acceptance in totality rather than demanding or changing.
• If its really love, then each moment, one feels developed n improved. Theres a kind of motivation to do something in life. Theres an encouragement to move on the right path in life. In love, one feels eternally strong. Theres no deterioration of any form.
• Love brings along playfulness. In love we tend to work more, we tend to innovate more, we tend to be creative
• if a situation comes, in which we need a change in someone, or in circumstances, we should not try to change it personally. We should pray to God for that change. In this process,meditation n courses like REIKI or pranik healing play an important role.
• It should be noted that our behavior, is in turn result of our prarabdh. We get those kind of situations, those kind of circumstances, which could lead to some event, which is a result of our prarabdh.
• Theres only one thing which can make everything right. This is the bhakti sutra.
• Anything which attracts at first is a form of depreciation. So to say, love if caused by attraction, then it wont last long. Anything which is formed by attraction never lasts long. For eg- this world. Every worldly thing attracts. But never lasts.
• when we think of different forms of love, we should understand that all these forms of love when combined together, when taken as a whole, would then be equivalent to how much the Almighty loves us.
Now apart from all these points we should understand that if we give our love undoubtedly, unboundedly, without expectations, to all of our relationships, in every way (meaning to say, to our parents, to our relatives, to our friends, to our special someone etc etc) then all the people involved would dissolve, n in the end, we would be able to understand, that in all these different forms, there was only one who was giving love to us, which is Almighty God. Its like, if we put together droplets of water, steam, ice n normal water, then we would see, that in the end, everything dissolves, only water remains, which in turn evaporates into air.Same ways all our relationships in the end dissolve into one Almighty.To understand this only, in olden ages people use to send their wards to gurukul, where all this kind of teachings were taught n a child was made ready to face the world, after understanding the basic concepts. Keeping all that apart, n talking in practical terms, one can easily understand that any relationship which breaks the natural flow of thoughts, which breaks the concentration from our lives to other things, actually depreciates our capabilities. N hence actually deteriorates our identities. This ways we are not only hurting ourselves, but also the Almighty who created us for some reason.
Maya is considered to be maha thagni. The reason is, as we know, there are three kind of character traits – rajogun, tamogun n satogun. While in rajogun, one is attracted towards maya due to “ichha” or “alasya” or expectations. While in tamogun, one is attracted due to bad habbits n addictions. N while in satogun, one is attracted due to the feeling of over confidence, or pride, or ahem. So however a person be, maya is always eligible to encapsulate one in its attractions.
“Seedhi baat hamesha seedhi baat hoti hai”. Theres no if n but in it. Theres no complexity in it. For eg- if your stomach is upset, it wont digest anything. Its clear n loud. Theres no if n but. This is how the creation of God is. Clear n transparent. Theres no complexity. It is how it is. N love is the same thing. Clear. Transparent. That is what its pure form is. Nothing hidden. Wherever anything hidden comes in, that means its not anymore pure.
This attraction towards depreciating things is ahenkar. Pride. When this feeling comes in love looses its purity. Also here one thing should be noted, that any pure n true relationship, is always true. There never comes any point of doubt, or complex situations. N if any relationship isn’t this way, then its never true. Its said, whats right is always right. Whats not, never was. This can only come when our belief in the Almighty is head strong. Any kind of psycho weakness, or depression is the result of lack of concentration, lack of understanding, n lack of satsang towards God. Satsang doesn’t only means reading some holy book. Satsang means walking on the path of truth, doing positive n good things, by which many are benefitted. Satsang means being in a company of good n true hearted people.
We always blame God for whatever is happening with us. We say God doesn’t do things for us. We just have to understand, that God has done everything for us. Its now our turn to do things for us. He has given us everything that we need for our self betterment. The thing is we just have to realize n work for our own betterment. But we still wait for God to do something for us.
Coming back to love, the only thing we should understand is, truth would always be truth, even if we don’t want it to be. A true relationship would always remain a true relationship, even if we don’t want it to be. True love never ends. If it ends, it never was true.
